Issues

Issues relating to me.

• I have a need for control, and need to work on releasing control to others.
• I have issues with my body image. I am working through these in therapy. I am beautiful on many levels, including my appearance. I started this in January, declaring 2006 the year of Rebecca. Now it truly is the year of Rebecca.
• I allowed myself to lose sight of who I am. I have now taken charge of ME.
• I do not need to feel guilty for taking time for myself to do things only about me.
• I need to not supress my free spirit within and allow myself to do the things I want to. (like the tattoo I have wanted for 15 years)

Issues relating to us. Lessons learned.

• Our marraige lacked intimacy once I was pregnant with Max. Much of this is due to my body image issues, and the feeling that Brian could not love me when I was pregnant or overweight. (regardless of what he said)
• We needed to open the lines of communication and keep them open. A good marriage requires effort. If we had been able to communicate better, I believe we would not be divorcing.
• We each made time for ourselves, and for our children, but not time for eachother. One date every six months was not enough to nurture the relationship.
• Simple gestures like holding hands, walking arm-in-arm, a kiss on the neck, go a long way towards building intimacy.
• My control issues made me reluctant to leave Brian with the boys and do things for myself. I had been working on that prior to his departure, but it was too little, too late.